The Elephant in the Room; Generational Jaded, Interpersonal Relationships
~Reality in
Consciousness
“Can African male and female
relationships survive in America? Not if
black-on-black love is dead. Not if we
are still too scared to admit there is a problem while our families fall apart.”
-Sister Souljah
I came across the read “No Disrespect” by Sister Souljah nearly
three years ago when I took the initiative in research to understand the sense
lack of love and its effects based on experiences with my relatives of whom I
unconditionally love (by default J).
Upon the book’s insight and my reflection in comparison, I rediscovered my
purpose in life. Being aware that a lot
of us are embarrassed, or might find it so- called “messy” to have discussions
on family matters outside of the “union” due to agreeable understandings of
privacy. Well, that’s not the case here.
Some immediate relatives that I’ve come to know, out of anger and frustration,
have enabled stagnation in moving forward together by producing toxic past
regression (unresolved issues), while spearheading the rudiments of a jaded internal
love, but with all means of “not knowing any better” and with no awareness of their
wrongdoings. In their own dealings, then by teaching their offspring an
interchangeable love as the norm of navigation in life leaves some thirsty in
greed for more. I speak in truth, and whatever that dwells in the dark, I will bring
it forth to the light.
The problem is mental illness,
and I’ve been encouraged to recognize it over the years’ time, filtered through
the conscious lens. Seeing the dis-ease range
from a lower state of extreme denial of all things about self, stretching as
far out to an individual existing in the company of negative entities. The lower stages of denial are reflections
from a person who either is not willing to comprehend nor educate themselves
about their circumstances which have led to a form of mental health disease
born out of unresolved issues, which brings me to this build to reflect on here
today. You see, mental illness first birthing is celebrated by the individual’s
inability to recognize a lack of internal harmony after years of repetitive self-neglect. As this new form of a lower mental state and awareness
of one’s self is taken hold, there’s no point in attempting to change a person
who isn’t quite ready to live above the lower self. The practiced and handed down propagated
empty phrase, “forgive and forget” has for years, upon generations until the
next, demonstrated unconsciously how to eternalize unnecessary pain. It would
be holistically ideal to forgive the people who hurt us but remember to not
neglect the message that should’ve made you more aware of your powers today,
hence the test of your ability to ascend with higher consciousness in the first
place. The disconnection of reality (consciousness) from spiritual tests are
seen as barriers instead of lesson plans to learn, pass, teach, and master. Then
again, most people just can’t handle the truth and changes in life that will
need to take place some time or the other. The duality that I can see now in my
own individual experience with family relationships is no longer judged as good
or bad, and their perceptions in life are just where it is meant to be at, in
whatever time and space they uphold, but always in divine order.
So, how can we begin to
reverse generational jaded, interpersonal relationships when we can hardly be
still for five minutes and receive knowledge today? Let me guide you to the
wise words of Dr. Akua Gray, my Naturopath instructor, to gain a very simple
and basic understanding of the natural flow of love. In the text, The Natural Health and Wellness Manual,
an important study is examined titled “Love is a Given”, and therefore existing
before we discover how to establish self-love.
“Love is not something to
possess; it is forever present because it is energy. The universal energy of love exists as energy
of connection for all that exists in the seen and the unseen. Love is a powerful vibration to concentrate
and direct when necessary for the realignment of an individual or group with
their divine purpose. Those who are in
alignment with divine energy can internalize this connection and see love in
all that exists. Even with those things
and people that are choosing to manifest the energy of evil and insanity, the
enlightened ones will see love and do what is necessary to help bring them into
alignment with truth that benefits all” (pp196).
“A person seeking to change
their thoughts about love may take an extended period of time especially if
they are operating from emotional addictions “(pp 196).
Love is the first step to
breaking any destructive cycle, especially in family matters. Knowing “that because love is an energy
vibration that exists as a part of the whole divine energy, and energy cannot
be created or destroyed, then the vibration of love is in complete existence in
our lives at every moment.” Dr. Akua
goes on to say that “it is when we move to activate higher levels of
consciousness and dispel the myth that love is changeable, conditional or is
lacking in our lives, that we connect with this truth and live each day in
complete love that is supplied in abundance by the creator” (pp 196).
Also, studying varies forms
of psychology in college did shed some light of more comprehension regarding
broken foundations in the home from a “sophisticated” classification standpoint
as well. In a text that I read titled Intimate Relationships, written by
Rowland Miller, I’ve found the term attachment styles helpful to how we shape
relationships based on many different influences in our lives. According to Miller, “attachment styles
appear to be orientations toward relationships that are largely learned from
our experiences with others. They are
prime examples of the manner in which the proclivities and perspectives we
bring to a new relationship emerge in part from our experiences in prior partnerships”
Miller goes on to say, “being learned, attachment styles can also be unlearned,
and over time, attachment styles can change” (Fraley et al.,2011 pp 18).
Meditating on this fact will
bring you closer to vibrating on a love frequency, while having understanding
of every reflection of yourself outside of the conception of denial. Change begins with you to unlearn. (I will
expound more on the subject next week)
Peace.
~
Written by: Reality S.J Fields
Source:
Souljah, Sister (1994), No
Disrespect, First Vintage Books, 1st ed.
Gray, Akua (2016), Natural Health
and Wellness Consultant Manual, BJK Publishing
Miller, Rowland S. (2015), Intimate
Relationships, McGraw-Hill Education, 7th ed.
STAYED TUNED INTO REALITY…
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